“HOW ARE YOU DOING?”

Is that a question that you hear a lot? Does anyone ever ask how you’re doing? Do people always ask about your loved one but not you? When you tell them how you’re doing, do they really listen?

Sometimes, it can feel like we’ve become invisible. “Hello! Does anyone see me? Does anyone care how I’m doing?” That’s when we know that its time to do something to focus on ourselves. We have to administer self-care to ourselves, daily. Even if its a little something for only a few minutes, do it. It is a must.

We must acknowledge that we are here and present today. Yes, I am here. I am important. I have purpose. My life may not look like I want it to at the moment, but I’m still here. The care that I give to my loved one is invaluable and precious. Although, my loved one cannot adequately acknowledge my service or express their gratitude, I know what I’m doing is valuable and appreciated, even if only appreciated by me. I value me. I value the extraordinary person that I am.

We must find peace in our spirit. As I always say, ‘peace of mind is a wonderful thing’. When we have peace within ourselves, it doesn’t matter whether other people are concerned about us or not. When we are at peace in our mind, body, and spirit then we feel whole, regardless the circumstances around us. Yes, the world around me may seem to be falling apart, but I know how to quiet myself and not let the chaos in. Maybe that’s a bubble bath, or listening to a special playlist, or a walk in the park, or prayer and meditation.

We must set our minds on brighter days ahead. Setting small goals for myself and accomplishing something daily does wonders to boost my morale. Oh, they may be very small things to others, but to me, they represent goals that I have achieved just for myself. That shows movement and progress. That makes me feel good and alive.

So, whether someone asks, “How are you doing?” or not, you will know that you are doing just fine. After all that you’ve gone through, you’re still here and present. Despite all of the sadness, grief, and gloom around you, you’re at peace in your spirit. Although, you may not have done all that you would like to do, you have accomplished some things that are important to you.

After all the stress and strain that you’re faced with daily, you’re still here! You’re still here and you’re doing fine! You’re better than you were yesterday and not as good as you will be tomorrow. Yes, you’re doing well! As always,

Love, Prayers, and Blessings

Phyllis